Creating Romantic Moments - #BeingIfektive #LifeOfASingleHusbandMaterial

Last time,  we talked about "How to get a girl to kiss you" from #BeingIfektive,  we made it known that girls do not do the kissing, Men do the kissing. For a Single Husband material to kiss a girl,  he has to create a romantic moment which gives room for a possible kiss.

Today, we talk about CREATING ROMANTIC MOMENTS for a Single Husband Material.
To get started, You can't create a good romantic moment if you are not romantically attracted to someone, i.e. you shouldn't try to kiss a girl you are not romantically attracted to.
This article is written  from the reasoning of a Single Husband Material, not Playboys, and from my own perspective #BeingIfektive.

Every single husband material needs to know there is a big difference between romantic attraction and sexual attraction. Romantic attraction  can be completely platonic in nature. There can be no trace of sexuality in it. A gay guy can feel it for a straight girl. It can be anything from spiritual, intellectual, emotional. Of course it can encompass all of them, and also be sexual. But they are not necessarily inclusive, and they are not mutually exclusive.
Sexual attraction is typically defined as a pull toward a specific person in which you wish to partake in sexual activities with them either in real life or in fantasy. It's looking at a person and having a feeling that makes you think "I'd like to have sex with them."
 Romantic attraction, on the other hand, is typically defined as a similar pull  toward a specific person, but instead of a sexual desire, it's a romantic desire. It's when you look at someone and have a feeling that makes you think "I'd like to do romantic things with them."
What those romantic things entail depends on the person. For some, it may be holding hands, and cuddling. Others may include kissing. Others may not like anything that involves touching, maybe even less physical things like say "I love you" and go on dates and do the emotional-caring part of a relationship but not necessarily with the physical parts of a relationship. Often, sexual attraction and romantic attraction happen at the same time, but not always. Sometimes people are only sexually attracted to a person, or only romantically attracted.

When creating a romantic moment,  you just can't be boring! you have to find an unexpected and exciting way to express your love to another person. It can be tricky to be romantic without feeling corny or insincere, whether you're starting a new relationship and want to show your new significant other- how much you care, or if you've been with the same partner for ten years and want to keep things fresh.

Creating romantic  moments comes in stages.
Stage one is building the foundation the romantic moment will sit on.
WHEN YOU ARE NOT WITH HER PHYSICALLY
Be protective over something small: cute protective, not controlling protective. Like if she’s about to go out and the forecast says it might rain, insist that she takes her umbrella as she’s walking out of the house.
Do something mutual: Start watching a show with her and be religious about only watching it when the two of you can watch it. Waiting on an episode of Game of Thrones so you can enjoy it together is the ultimate sign of love and commitment.
Show her you want to hang out with her: Compile a small list of fun things going on in your city that weekend, and send them to her to choose from.
Be helpful: Offer to help her with one thing on her weekend to-do list if you notice she’s overwhelmed.
Don't be naive: pay attention  to her secret desires,  especially if they are romantic.
Text messages: Do you ever text your lover to say something nice? Texts may be a good way to stay connected, but you could also use it to express just how you feel. You can send a line about how eager you are to meet them in the evening, or you can even use it to say something naughty to make your sweetheart blush and go pink! Don't forget you can't afford to be boring,  don't text her the same way other guys will text her, use emoji makers,  reply her with me memes, be fun!

WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER PHYSICALLY
You can touch:
- Cuddle her unexpectedly while in public. Like, put your arm around her in an affectionate (without being over-the-top) way, and let her sort of melt into you.

- Rub her back for no reason
- Play with her hair while the two of you are watching TV or doing something cool. It doesn’t have to be complex, just a little light head touching/hair-messing-with will put her into a near-meditative state.
Give her options:
Instead of just asking her where she wants to go for dinner — because you know that she loves when you put in the effort to choose, but is really picky when it comes to what she wants — give her three options that you want to go to (including one or two you haven’t tried before, if possible). It’s the best of both worlds.
Little gifts:
Bring her things she loves, but which are not ‘quintessentially romantic.’ A weird t-shirt can mean much more than roses.
Go places with her:
- Go to an amusement park. Amusement parks are great for two reasons. Firstly, they bring out the inner child within us, which can be a lot of fun. And more importantly, heart pumping rides always gives us an adrenalin rush. And a good dose of adrenalin always stimulates sexual arousal, which will make both of you get more attracted to each other.
- Take a walk together.
- Dinners: Dinners are one of the most romantic ideas to express your love to the special someone in your life.
- Vacations: If you can afford it, make time to plan at least one vacation with each other every year. It’ll create new memories and make your lives more exciting too.

- Go to the Beach! One of the best romantic places to be is the beach,  you can look out for beach parties to attend,  some with scandalous themes like "HEADS ON BEACH".
Create memories:
 Our lives are nothing but a collection of memories. Participate in an activity that both of you haven’t done yet, visit a place both of you have never been to, or even experiment with a new cuisine that you can’t imagine trying! Every new memory you create together will be another exciting leaf to add into your book of romance.
The questions game:
 A perfect romantic idea that can build intimacy, bring both of you closer and improve communication is a good game of questions. They don’t have to be corny at all. As long as you ask the right questions, it’ll make both of you feel more romantic *perhaps, even horny!* in no time.

Cup her face gently when you kiss her.

WHEN YOU ARE INTIMATE:

Surprise: Plan a surprise every now and then. You can go all out and plan a surprise birthday or an anniversary celebration. Or you can surprise your partner out of the blue by doing something for them, be it a chore or breakfast in bed one weekend morning.
Bathtub: Bathrooms are sexy, but bathtubs, they’re just sensual and beautiful. Draw a bath for your husband or wife and slip in together. If you can have a few candles around, well, that just makes it a lot more romantic too. Both of you could just soak in the water, fool around for a while, or even make love. It’s all going to be just perfect.
Cooking together: Cooking may be a chore, but cooking together always seems like a fun thing to do as a couple. Plan an exotic menu together and spend an evening or an afternoon cooking together at a leisurely pace.
Do something spontaneous: Planned romantic ideas are grand. But sometimes, a spontaneous burst of romance too can be just as fun. After all, romance too is just like sex. Passionate, long hours of sex is always sensual and fun. But at times, even a spontaneous quickie can feel just as awesome, don’t you think?
Take turns to plan dates: If both of you have been dating for a while, try something new from now on. If both of you go out once a week, take turns to plan the date. It creates a challenge and brings back the excitement of the infatuation period. Both of you would want to plan something elaborate to impress the other person. And in the end, both of you would end up having a lot of fun together.
Dance: Looking for a romantic idea that involves a bit of music and fun? Head to a club together, or stay back at home and play something romantic in the background. It may seem corny or awkward at first, but a few minutes into the dance, and it’ll just feel perfectly romantic!
Watch a romantic movie!
Have sex: Sexual intimacy is just as important as emotional intimacy for all couples. And no sexual act beats the intimacy tantric sex can bring to your relationship. If both of you can spare a few hours of undisturbed time, lock yourselves in the bedroom and prepare your minds for a sexual high that could leave both of you in ecstatic tears!

 I believe someone can have a sexual relationship with somebody without that marring or hurting an emotional relationship they have with someone else. I don't believe it's cheating, as long as everything is talked about from the beginning and they go through the basic notions of what it's to be expected of each other. Of course, if there isn't an explicit agreement, and you hide from your Spouse that you're having sexual relationships, even if you consider them to be meaningless, then it'd be wrong, it'd be cheating. I believe in honesty and full disclosure. Everything else is second to that.
Sometimes, the best romantic ideas are also the easiest and the simple ones. As long as you look for ways to show your affection to your lover every now and then, you’ll find that there will always be new and exciting romantic ideas in your lives, all the time!
Share your romantic ideas with me,  Holla on Twitter and Instagram @ifektive would love to hear from you.