AVOID THAT EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE EX

We all have that one ex that still has a special spot in our heart. It’s so sad that most of them are the worst type of people to date in a relationship.

The Emotionally Unavailable

Such people are very common in relationships, they make you fall in love with their mysterious personality,  you get entranced in their unpredictable ways and before you know it, you are deep in love, no turning back.

You would be lucky if your relationship lasted months with such people. The beginning of the relationship might be rosy but soon you’ll see your spouse drifting, no more regular calls, they get tired easily, they don’t even say I love you. Whenever you want to hang out, they are either busy or visiting a family friend. 

Before you know it, you are asking yourself if you are still in a relationship or not. Truth be told, relationships like this are toxic, you should never feel like you are the only one in love or you are not doing things right. If for nothing,  it’s your partner’s fault not yours. Then suddenly you find yourself single with a broken heart that might take months or years to heal or who knows you might never fall out of love with them. Just your shit ass luck (forgive my choice of words).

And the moment you think you are close to getting back on track, finally got over your ex or you are on the road to and you are finally learning how to be happy again, they show up like a rat in your closet, you have no idea where they came from.

My advice run! Run as fast as you can. Avoid keeping contacts, fuck being friends ( again forgive my choice of words) don’t bother trying to get closure. Because emotionally unavailable people are quite good at manipulating. They are never sure about their feelings so they toss people about like a baseball, loving you on minute, dumping you the next.

The moment you look for closure, they instigate a possible reunion and if you are a fool or hopelessly in love, you take the bait and it’s like reliving the whole memory again. Only this time,  a part of you is clearly aware that you are being a fool but leaving you the choice to either remain a fool or say “Fuck love I’m done with this bullshit”.

Don’t be a fool believing you are the one good enough to change the person. You might be good enough but don’t stick around to be played, used and repeatedly dumped.

Some exes come back just for sex, some come back just to fuck your perfectly good life while some come back the moment they see you have become the person they wanted,  the person you weren’t months or years back.

Why wait to be used as an experiment. You should let yourself be loved and loved right.  Never make it all about sex or money or physical features or whatever. If it doesn’t benefit you or change you for the better,  let go and never look back.You are too good to be treated like thrash, never settle for less. Never!.

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